It’s Not You, Maybe It’s Your Products!

Hello beautiful people!

How are you today?

Did you press ya hand over the weekend? Before we go into the day’s post, can I just say how proud I am of my fellow Nigerians? Sure I can.

Round the country, we came out in our numbers and stood up to be counted. Patiently, and with great determination. Through the glitches in the system, the long queues, the heavy sun & finally the rain… We could have turned back but we didn’t.

As we await results, I am cautiously optimistic that there will be no drama. No matter who wins, I think we have all won something. For the first time, we the 200 Million Mumus are finally beginning to wake up and our leaders know it too!

Okay. Let me bottle this excitement right now, and move on to the business of the day. 🙂


“And you- and you- you’re gonna love me!!!!!!!”

When a hair product is acting funny with me, Jennifer Hudson saaaanging her heart out as Effie in ‘And I Am Telling You’ (Dream Girls) often comes to mind.

Because it’s by force oh. I like to buy hair products but this doesn’t mean I’m quick to toss them. No way, no way. I will try and try, study it, read/watch other people’s reviews to see how best to use it. I am determined to make it work for me. It’s not often love at first use, but after 3, 4 uses, I finally get the hang of it. A product you hate in harmattan could be your favourite in the rainy season. Sometimes a product isn’t bad, but it sucks at the purpose for which it is advertised. It’s all so very interesting. This is why I reserve my reviews until I’ve almost finished a product or I am at least half way through.

Do Practices Really Matter WAY More Than Products?

You hear it said a lot that your hair care practices matter way more than the products you use. I think the real lesson is for you to have some balance, and not get hung up. These companies don’t hold back with the beautiful labels, interesting names and fancy advertising. Because of this, and also our previous orientation, so many of us tend to err on the side of PJ-ism and let our regimens suffer, but products matter. A lot. Sure, if you see someone with hair that you like, I think it’s better to ask her what she DOES, before you go to what she USES. BUT the truth is, the wrong products can render your regimen useless. Consistency is a virtue needed to get the most out of BOTH your products, & your hair practices.

It’s Okay To Want More

Even with our supposedly safer or more natural products, everything cannot and does not work for everyone. Two products can have similar ingredients and yet work differently. Different chemists, different formulations. What works well for your twin sister may not work well for you. Everything cannot work AWESOMELY well for everyone.

So my dear, as even the greatest of “forcers” know, there comes a time to give up. Doing the same thing 10,000 times over and over is madness. Isn’t that what they say?If everybody is raving about how OMG AWESOME a product is, I hold it to that standard. If I use it and I can only rate it an EH, 5 or 6, why should I continue using it? I want awesome too.

Why Are We Talking About This Today?

I got an email from someone last week. Her regimen is on point. She has been consistent for a year, using the same products for most of it.  She deep conditions every week, moisturizes & seals pretty frequently, the whole shebangbang. Yet her hair shows no signs of this loving care.

The products she uses- the ORS Replenishing Conditioner and the Cantu for Natural Hair Creamy Hair Lotion come highly recommended. They are loved by many. But they aren’t giving her the results she needs. My suggestion was simple. Ditch them. Sometimes it’s not you, it actually is the product. Again, not everything can work for everyone. If your hair is super picky, keep trying, but don’t bang your head over it.

A product can knock your socks off in the beginning, but after your hair gets too used to it, it’ll start misbehaving. This was my experience with the Cantu for Natural Hair Creamy Hair Lotion. It’s in your best interest not to complicate your hair affairs, but there’s no shame whatsoever in moving forward and trying new things until you find your Holy Grail.

A Few Things Before You Move:

  1. Address your regimen first, to be sure your practices aren’t the problem.
  2. Before starting a new product or a new set of products, I like to have really clean hair- I clarify to eliminate any possibility of build up, so the new product has a clean slate to work with.
  3. If you use 5 products in your regimen, don’t change them all at once. This is important so you can readily identify what’s working for you and what isn’t.
  4. Give your products deadlines. I give new products 1 or 2 months of active use, (translate: 4-8 uses, or the time it would take to finish a full size container of the product, whichever happens first) With hair products, I’ve learnt that first impressions aren’t always accurate.
  5. If a product isn’t working for you and you can’t bring yourself to let it go, allow it gather dust until the season changes. Different products work better in certain temperatures.

So, ladies. What’s your take on this matter? How do you deal with new products, or the products you use in general? What’s your approach? Have a great week ahead!




8 thoughts on “It’s Not You, Maybe It’s Your Products!

  1. It’s weird that I was just thinking about this issue yesterday . I really like the cantu shea butter leave in BUT I’m so over how it takes forever to get absorbed these days. I am actively searching for a leave in that sinks into my strands ASAP. I also want a new deep conditioner. Seems like my holy grail products need a total overhaul.


  2. I LOOOVE the whole Effy/You’re gonna love me analogy part, that’s GENIUS! Many a lady including myself has song this tuuuune with equal desperation to many a hair product, with the same results, i.e the man/product showing us the back door, forcing us to move on!

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  3. I sang that song to my shoes but they just kept biting into my feet…
    This is true. I do say this- that practices matter more than products- because the products that got my hair where I wanted weren’t the usual names. But then there was a dc, then a hair wash, and even an oil that were so raved about and yet they drove some of my strands to extinction.
    So yeah, products matter too.


  4. My elder sister calls my natural hair “ashawo hair” because it’s ok with most products, I get to take the products that don’t work for her BSL relaxed hair lol. I also tweak some productss to work for me eg coconut oil, it hardens my hair but my scalp loves it so I only use it for my scalp.
    P.S I love trying out new products, it makes my wash day interesting.

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    • LOL! Ashawo hair, you’re so lucky! And you’re so right- trying new products does make Wash day interesting. On days I have no time to waste though, I stick with my staples. And Coconut oil has the same effect on me. Great for my scalp, but not spectacular for my hair. I use it to pre-poo & soothe when my scalp itches.


  5. Products definitely matter.
    There are times when I neglect my hair for a week but because I used a good deep conditioner/leave in at the beginning of the week, my hair pulls through.
    I personally didn’t like the Cantu creamy hair lotion much when I used it and would probably not repurchase
    Nigerian and Natural


  6. Reblogged this on KiniKinks and commented:
    Let’s be honest, AB speaks the truth. It even happens to the best of us. This recently happened to me when most of my staple products became scarce and I bought alternatives that I thought would work for my hair. Let’s just say my hair remained #unlooking.


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