It’s Not You, Maybe It’s Your Products!

Hello beautiful people!

How are you today?

Did you press ya hand over the weekend? Before we go into the day’s post, can I just say how proud I am of my fellow Nigerians? Sure I can.

Round the country, we came out in our numbers and stood up to be counted. Patiently, and with great determination. Through the glitches in the system, the long queues, the heavy sun & finally the rain… We could have turned back but we didn’t.

As we await results, I am cautiously optimistic that there will be no drama. No matter who wins, I think we have all won something. For the first time, we the 200 Million Mumus are finally beginning to wake up and our leaders know it too!

Okay. Let me bottle this excitement right now, and move on to the business of the day. 🙂

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“And you- and you- you’re gonna love me!!!!!!!”

When a hair product is acting funny with me, Jennifer Hudson saaaanging her heart out as Effie in ‘And I Am Telling You’ (Dream Girls) often comes to mind.

Because it’s by force oh. I like to buy hair products but this doesn’t mean I’m quick to toss them. No way, no way. I will try and try, study it, read/watch other people’s reviews to see how best to use it. I am determined to make it work for me. It’s not often love at first use, but after 3, 4 uses, I finally get the hang of it. A product you hate in harmattan could be your favourite in the rainy season. Sometimes a product isn’t bad, but it sucks at the purpose for which it is advertised. It’s all so very interesting. This is why I reserve my reviews until I’ve almost finished a product or I am at least half way through.

Do Practices Really Matter WAY More Than Products?

You hear it said a lot that your hair care practices matter way more than the products you use. I think the real lesson is for you to have some balance, and not get hung up. These companies don’t hold back with the beautiful labels, interesting names and fancy advertising. Because of this, and also our previous orientation, so many of us tend to err on the side of PJ-ism and let our regimens suffer, but products matter. A lot. Sure, if you see someone with hair that you like, I think it’s better to ask her what she DOES, before you go to what she USES. BUT the truth is, the wrong products can render your regimen useless. Consistency is a virtue needed to get the most out of BOTH your products, & your hair practices.

It’s Okay To Want More

Even with our supposedly safer or more natural products, everything cannot and does not work for everyone. Two products can have similar ingredients and yet work differently. Different chemists, different formulations. What works well for your twin sister may not work well for you. Everything cannot work AWESOMELY well for everyone.

So my dear, as even the greatest of “forcers” know, there comes a time to give up. Doing the same thing 10,000 times over and over is madness. Isn’t that what they say?If everybody is raving about how OMG AWESOME a product is, I hold it to that standard. If I use it and I can only rate it an EH, 5 or 6, why should I continue using it? I want awesome too.

Why Are We Talking About This Today?

I got an email from someone last week. Her regimen is on point. She has been consistent for a year, using the same products for most of it.  She deep conditions every week, moisturizes & seals pretty frequently, the whole shebangbang. Yet her hair shows no signs of this loving care.

The products she uses- the ORS Replenishing Conditioner and the Cantu for Natural Hair Creamy Hair Lotion come highly recommended. They are loved by many. But they aren’t giving her the results she needs. My suggestion was simple. Ditch them. Sometimes it’s not you, it actually is the product. Again, not everything can work for everyone. If your hair is super picky, keep trying, but don’t bang your head over it.

A product can knock your socks off in the beginning, but after your hair gets too used to it, it’ll start misbehaving. This was my experience with the Cantu for Natural Hair Creamy Hair Lotion. It’s in your best interest not to complicate your hair affairs, but there’s no shame whatsoever in moving forward and trying new things until you find your Holy Grail.

A Few Things Before You Move:

  1. Address your regimen first, to be sure your practices aren’t the problem.
  2. Before starting a new product or a new set of products, I like to have really clean hair- I clarify to eliminate any possibility of build up, so the new product has a clean slate to work with.
  3. If you use 5 products in your regimen, don’t change them all at once. This is important so you can readily identify what’s working for you and what isn’t.
  4. Give your products deadlines. I give new products 1 or 2 months of active use, (translate: 4-8 uses, or the time it would take to finish a full size container of the product, whichever happens first) With hair products, I’ve learnt that first impressions aren’t always accurate.
  5. If a product isn’t working for you and you can’t bring yourself to let it go, allow it gather dust until the season changes. Different products work better in certain temperatures.

So, ladies. What’s your take on this matter? How do you deal with new products, or the products you use in general? What’s your approach? Have a great week ahead!

Love,

AB,

xx

In Other News, My Brain is Showing :(

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My girl F has two adorable baby sisters with long, luscious naturally kinky locks. Let’s call them T & M. Right from babyhood, they’ve always had full heads. F’s hair isn’t as abundant as theirs, and the hair at the temples is a little sparse, but this may also be genetic. So one day last year, T observed the hair there. And she asked F very very seriously- What is that? Is that your brain? LOL! It’s a standing joke between us now, but on a more serious note. My own brain is showing. 😦

And I’m very upset. *rolling on the floor, not laughing*

I think I’ve been taking my edges for granted. I hated them for most of junior secondary school because sometimes, it was as if they wanted to touch my eyebrows. LOL weird, probably an exaggeration, but my edges were abundant. Though as fragile as anyone else’s, they always grew back.

I wore kinky twists for all four weeks in April and I lost a lot of hair at the edges which was really surprising because the hair wasn’t made tight or styled uncomfortably. I ignored this, thinking my edges would bounce back naturally as usual, but they haven’t. Now, May- June- July- August… my edges are thin, my Scalp is still shining in space meant to be obscured by my wild edges, my brain is still threatening to show.

Help is in a bottle, thankfully, in the form of Jamaican Black Castor Oil. I participated in a Castor Oil challenge on Kinky Curly Coily Me last year, and after it, I was truly convinced of the healing, conditioning and growth stimulating qualities of castor oil, or as I prefer it, JBCO. More about Castor oil here. I always recommend Castor Oil to people having trouble with their edges, and it’s time for me to take my own advice. At least 3 times a week, I will be massaging my hairline with Castor Oil. Actually, I think I’m going to extend the TLC to my entire head, by entering the Fall Castor Oil Challenge on Kinky Curly Coily Me.

I’m also going to leave my edges out of my styling plans. Hopefully, my edges will be revived soon! Please pay attention to your edges ladies. Stay woke!

Are you struggling with any hair issues right now? Misery loves company! 😉 lol

Love,

AB,

xx