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Hello lovers!

It’s 3AM in the morning and you’re probably asleep.

But I’m super excited and this can’t wait. Two hours ago, we hit the 200,000 mark for blog views!!!

The Kink and I has been read 200,000 times!! And to us, this is a really big deal! 🙂

A very big THANK YOU to everyone that has read this blog, left a comment, shared a link, emailed, connected with us in any way! Thank you to every business  that has supported us!

When I started this blog, this particular space on wordpress, I had no idea what it would be. I had just decided to transition (for the third time!), and I did not even know that I’d grow to care for my hair so much as to even write about it. Before I changed the address, this blog was called Purple Ozymandias. And then it was Que Bueno Bueno (don’t ask) lol before it became The Kink and I- and from then on, I had the tiny confidence to tell other people (apart from MeeMee) about it. Blogging here has been tremendous for my hair journey, and I’m sure it’s doing good for MeeMee too! It helps to share here, and talk about hair as much as we want, knowing you understand.

Thank you for sticking with me, for sticking with us!

We actually thought we’d be hitting this mark in October or November- we did not expect it’d come this soon! So- it’s going to take some planning to do (we have oceans between us *sniff sniff*) but a big, nice giveaway is in order, we promise!

Thank you lovers, thank you friends, thank you for the encouragement, thank you for everything you have been to The Kink and I. God bless you all!

Love,

AB,

xx

State of the Kinkdom: My Fro at 2!

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Friday 30 May, 2014 was the second anniversary of my big chop! 🙂

*whistles* *trumpets* *balloons* *confetti*

On my hairversary last year, I set the following goals for myself:

  1. Soft, way better moisturised hair without over-reliance on product
  2. Growth/length retention
  3. Cure myself of hand in hair syndrome

I’ve mastered #1. I’ve seen growth and retained some since then but I feel like I could have done better with #2. Now, about #3; because my kinks are awesome and still so brand new to me, I still put my hands in my hair, but definitely 70% less as much as I used to! So, allow me to give myself an A! ^_^

Before my first hairversary, I never styled my coils, and since then, I’ve put in some reasonable effort to change this. This is extra credit yo, so A+

LOL. How I love my hair! I’ve been annoyed, I’ve felt frustrated, but this second year of my journey has definitely been more fun than the first! With love and patience, we are making progress ❤ I’ve learnt A LOT about my hair in the past one year, and I’m still SO amazed at the versatility of it. How it can be big one moment and small the next. I’m coding and decoding. Shrinkage is an old friend of mine, but I’m still getting used to frizz.

HAIR OF THE DAY

For the D-day, I planned to wear a braid out. Two days before, I braided dry stretched hair with a little leave-in (Cantu Shea Butter Leave-In Conditioning Repair Cream). I loosened the braids carefully for a braid out on Friday morning, and I got some decent definition, what do you think?

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But, I’d forgotten that I have a bit of shine problem with this leave-in. Hair wasn’t shining like I wanted it to.And I didn’t really appreciate my braid out right then because my mind was still attached to the unrealistic expectations of a braid-out on someone with curly hair 😦

It was only when I was done frizzing my hair in the name of trying to get a puff like Simply Cyn’s here, that I knew what I’d just lost. I had a small awkward puff because my hair wasn’t stretched like that from the braid out. I felt a little disappointed, but with more humidity and frizz, the puff flourished!

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It all worked out 🙂 I’ve got plenty of time to master the perfect braid out.

MOVING FORWARD

So many things I want to do now. I want to straighten, I want to trim, I want to colour, lol clearly I’m about to wild out! But I’m putting everything off till at least the end of the year.

Hair is healthy, happy, and for the most part, split-end free but I have one problem. My edges. My edges haven’t fully recovered from the Kinky Twists I wore in April. In fact, my front hair.

My edges are weak and a little scanty, and the hair in the front right after the edges isn’t as long as the rest. Short term goal is to grow my edges fully, and because different parts grow at different rates, I don’t know if my front hair should be a short or medium term goal.

I think my nape is doing fine, but because it’s a delicate area that could easily be stunted, I’ll be paying special attention to that as well.

Still keeping with my 2014 plan, I’m going to focus on healthy hair care, minimise my combing and try to manipulate my hair less. Sticking to low-manipulation is a little difficult because I get bored easily. I think working with stretched hair is going to be better for me, I will explain in later posts. 🙂

NEW HAIR GOALS

By my next hairversary, I want to see:

  1. Healthy thick soft hair
  2. Armpit length + more length at the nape.
  3. Full, healthy edges
  4. Healthy ends.

Thank YOU so much for your kind encouragement, helpful tips and for visiting the blog! I wish I could give you all some cake and ice cream, but you’re not here. 😦

Cheers to healthier, happier, longer hair!

Whoop!!!

Love,

AB,

Xx

Naturals DEY!

Hellooo beautifuls!!

How is the going going?

I was at work this morning when notifications started trickling in. Facebook, Instagram, WordPress. I was a little puzzled because I hadn’t recently posted anything on the interwebs. So I went to my stats to help me understand, and they led me to Bella Naija. Yours truly was mentioned by KlassyKinks in her article ’12 Natural Natural Hair Bloggers You Need To Follow’! You could go see it here. I felt excited, happy, fulfilled, I truly never hesperred it! ^____^

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A very BIG thank you to Ijeoma for the love!! and also for prompting my procrastinating ass to put out my own list. This is something I’ve had sitting in my drafts for a while.

Sometimes in your natural hair journey, you could feel lonely. Afro-textured sistas may not be as easy to spot on our streets as you would in say, Brooklyn- but I’m here to let you know that in our Nigeria, you aren’t alone. To borrow The Kinky Apothecary’s slang/ hashtag, #NaturalsDey.

Nigerian hair. Nigerian Naturals, Living right here, in Nigeria. We are here. Very happy, and we are thriving.

So this is a shoutout to all my Naija-based natural hair bloggers. You should get familiar with them 😉

This is by no means a conclusive list, but here in no particular order:

1. The Kinky Apothecary.

Nigeria’s first one-stop shop for your Natural hair needs has been here from the very beginning of this ‘movement’ so to speak. Actually, in anticipation of my Big Chop, my first product haul ever, was from the Apothecary! Visit the blog for hair talk, and follow the Apothecary’s FB and Instagram (/kinkyapothecary) for a steady stream of well-curated natural hair inspiration.

2. Rachel of Beautifully Nappy’s enthusiasm for keeping her kinks and body healthy & beautiful as naturally as possible is contagious!! For natural hair growth, organic skin care & healthy living, visit her blog– and keep up with her on Instagram (@rachelasakome) & Twitter (@BeautifullyNapy)

3. Natural Nigerian brings you “Natural” from a holistic point of view. It’s not just hair, she’s very very committed to living as naturally as possible. For healthy hair care, clean eating and generally healthier living, you want to bookmark NN’s blog. And just so you aren’t the last to know when next NN organises another hair meet-up, you should do the same. Between blog posts, keep up with NN on Facebook.

4. She whose face must not be seen! NatMane blogs about her hair journey at Deep Brown & Kinks. She’s a super talented stylist, I can personally testify. If you’re in Abuja, tweet her to make an appointment: @NaturalMane. You will not regret it.

5. Hadassah is a proudly Igbo girl, living it up in the ‘Buj with her very healthy, bouncy, curls. She writes at Nappily Nigerian Girl, and she instagrams too: @NappilyNigerianGirl. You could also tweet her: @NappilyNigerian.

6. Fola is a Natural Nigerian living in Lagos. She was on a healthy relaxed hair journey before she decided to embrace her kinks. She blogs about her hair (and fitness and healthy eating) at Fola’s Oasis.

7. Fellow 4C sista Acharacha blogs about her hair journey at Acharacha By Nature. With Acha, it’s simple straight to the point haircare, and she makes youtube videos too.

8. Beautiful Ifeyinwa is the Brain behind handmade skin care product line Ajali. She is a beauty & lifestyle blogger, who writes about hair, and other pretty things at Love, Ifeyinwa.

9. Kemi Lewis runs her own Natural Hair Salon in Ikoyi, Lagos. Visit her blog KL’s Naturals and you can just tell the woman KNOWS hair. That post about her laid edges? Paradigm. Shift.

10. African Naturalistas is the greatest collaborative blogging effort in the Nigerian natural hairsphere. Several bloggers write about African hair and all things related for AN, so you’re sure to see something new every time you visit!

11. The Mane Captain, Adeola lives in Toronto- but do visit her blog and see if that makes any difference. She blogs about the true basics of hair care- techniques and tips- things we can all implement, regardless of what we have or what we are using.

12. Sandeeey has been natural for several years. Her luscious locks (of life!) have even been featured on Curly Nikki. She’s on Instagram: @hairoflife and she writes about her hairscapades at HairOfLife.

13. Ore a.k.a. Ms. Cookie is a full blooded Yoruba girl with beautiful big curly hair. She talks hair on her blog Cookie’s Real Hair Care. If you’re in Lagos & need a little help with your real hair- natural or relaxed, hit her up to schedule a salon session. Tweet her: @thecurlycookie

14. Jan blogs about her healthy relaxed hair journey at Today’s Naira. She is also well invested in the maintenance of her nieces’ natural curls. Definitely a blog you should see for you, and the little curlies in your life.

15. 17 year old Nafisah is an aspiring architect. On her blog, Coily Head of Hairshe chronicles the ups and downs of being natural (in Nigeria) and from time to time, you can catch her doing some DIY too! 🙂

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On Tuesdays, Natural Nigerian shares photos of other Nigerian naturals on her facebook page. You could share your photos with her too. On Instagram, you could search the #NigerianHair and #NaturalsDey #NaturalNigerian tags.

For information about where to find Natural Hair Friendly products and salons in Nigeria, do visit the Where to Find Directory. Healthy Hair Awareness is growing like crazy, and in good time, I’m positive every state will catch the bug. But for now, most stores deliver. If a store isn’t in your city, don’t be shy to contact them. They may be able to accommodate your request or customise a solution for you. 🙂

From time to time, hair meet-ups are organised and from my experience, they’re full of great fun, warmth and kinky-curly inspiration!

If you live in Benin City, please please, read this short announcement.

Woah. This has been a super long post. I hope I’ve been able to convince you and not confuse you that… Naturals Dey! We are here!! If I didn’t mention your natural hair blog or your favourite hair blog, please bless us with a link in the comments!

Shout out to new The Kink and I followers! I’m always an email away- thekinkandi@gmail.com. I’ve only had my ‘fro for a little under 2 years, but I’m here to help as best as I can, and I always respond.

Till next post,

Love,

AB

Xx

Hello, February!!

Hey guys!
Long time no post!
Two whole weeks! And 2014 isn’t here to play oh, January moved fast!
Between MTN & Etisalat, my internet situation was a little complicated but it’s all good now. I’ll be up to regular posting from Monday, but for now, this is a quick update post, just to check-in.

1. The Kink and I just reached the 50 follower milestone on Bloglovin’! Wow. Thank you everyone, for reading and commenting and subscribing! Thank you SO much 🙂

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2. I got ombre box braids (black, with brown highlights) and they only lasted 2 weeks.

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Or should I say, I could only stand them for two weeks. Before them, the last time I used braiding hair that wasn’t kinky was October 2012. And even then, it was alright. But these braids my friends, were looking really old and raggedy in such a short time. I was sad to see them go- good money and time and 5 packs of hair wasted- I hadn’t even been able to do shakara properly. It just seemed a little silly to have super long waist-hip length braids that were really untidy where it mattered. I’m still wondering if it was my fault or the hairdressers’? AND. Calabar doesn’t know it’s supposed to be Harmattan. No chill whatsoever, it is. so. hot! I’ll be back to this style in a few months, hopefully, with much better luck.

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3. My hair is super soft as I write this. I just co-washed and yes, it was super-soft albeit a little greasy before I washed. BUT. The Herbal Essences Hello Hydration conditioner is truly worth the hype. There’s no difference between 700 naira Suave Naturals conditioner and the cheapey cheapey 250 naira Hair Fruits conditioner. But this. THIS is a moisturising conditioner!!

4. A Test of Two Leave-In Conditioners

Thursday was Wash day and after all the senrenren, I left my hair to air-dry in twists. But before the twists, I moisturised one half of my head with Jack 5ive Curl Activator and the other half with the Cantu Leave-In Conditioning Repair Cream– to see which was better. I unraveled the twists today just before I went for a walk and voila, no side was more moisturised than the other. My hair was all nice and soft and fluffy. A little greasy though (I sealed with coconut oil and appaz, I used more than I thought I did!)

5. I’m very very VERY serious about length retention this year! I resisted the urge to comb today, and went out looking maybe a little crazy.

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no comb, don’t care!!

I walked a good deal of Marian road and Old Ikang this evening (any Calabar curlies in the building?). I can’t wait till my hair starts to hang. Shorter hair makes the absence of a comb much more obvious, but abeg. I didn’t die today, and I’d happily do it again.

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Why must the caption strip be in the middle? Anyhoo…

6. The Kink and I is on Facebook now 🙂 and Instagram too. 🙂

7. Going off now to moisturise & seal and beg my roommate to thread my hair in preparation for another salon visit tomorrow. I dare you ’fro, to not dry before tomorrow afternoon! ( ._.)

I’m getting my hair did, no extensions this time. I’ll keep you posted!

Goodnight!

Love,

AB

xx