Save the date: Natural in Paradise!

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Hello everyone!!!

Special announcement!

In collaboration with Natural Nigerian, I’m happy to invite you all to Calabar’s first natural hair meet-up, ‘Natural in Paradise’! :)

Join us on Saturday, September 20, 2014 for healthy hair talk, natural hair products, networking & lady bonding!

Save the date, this will be so much fun!

We will be sharing more details soon, but kindly RSVP on Eventbrite over here, if you will be coming. This isn’t a condition for entry, it’d just help us have an idea of how many people to expect. Reblog, share, repost! Please share this with your friends in the area!! Thank you. :)

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Yes, all hair types are welcome!




The Memory of Love

‘The Memory of Love’ is a beautiful novel by Aminatta Forna. I read this in June.

I absolutely love it, and it’s definitely a new favourite. I learnt so much, I had to stop and think about the many points, it made me feel really grateful that I can read, and even more grateful & so happy that I enjoy reading. When was the last time a book made you feel this way? Seriously. I love you Aminatta, and I’m coming for everything you’ve ever written!
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Introducing: Meemee’s Kinks

Hey beauts!

Forgive me. One of the comments on my Being me blog tag confirmed what I had been thinking. I really never introduced myself, neither have I ever talked about my hair! Sacre bleu. Unacceptable, right? Today, I plan to right all my wrongs.

As AB said in her reply to Fola, AB and I, together… “WE. ARE. THE KINK AND I!” (Read in a This-is-Sparta way). Who are we, you ask? AB and Meemee, we are best friends that have been going through life’s journey, and now hair journey together for many many years. AB was my hairspiration and the springboard from which I launched the courage to finally do my big chop. This is my hair story, so far.

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What matters is how you see your hair! This is my hair’s alter ego.

After wearing my hair short and natural for 7 years, because, secondary school (I cut my hair before I started my last year of primary school. I was 9. My cousin had cut her hair for secondary school and I really disliked having to weave my hair every week with those women that treated your head like it was a phantom head. So I cut it.), I put the creamy hair crack in my hair before my hair had even made any growth progress. I think this is what killed my chance to have any growth at all. But I quickly realised that I do not like relaxers. They sting, they leave scalding burns on my scalp, they smell, they make my hair too flat on my head, ugh. So I made the switch to texturisers. I liked texturisers because they never actually made my hair straight or thin. They just made it easier to comb. Then they started to burn my scalp as well. That was when I made the decision to just stay off any of these chemicals altogether.

At this time, AB has started transitioning and she made it sound oh so fun. I wasn’t doing any research the way she did, I wasn’t taking any special care with products and protective styling either. My hair began breaking so much. It irritated me a lot such that one day, after doing a wash, I put the hair in a ponytail, took a pair of scissors and chopped the tail off. Stupid move! Of course it looked very raggedy. But I was quite happy about it. I had a stylist cut it into a nicer style after that and began to treat my hair a little nicer. wp_ss_20140719_0003   And then on Monday, September 30, 2013, I woke up, looked at my hair, got annoyed and walked to the saloon down the street and watched whatever was left of my straight, permed tips fall to the ground around me! October 4, 2013 was when I had my hair cut with a clipper, so that’s the first official day I started nurturing my natural hair.

My 'Big chop'

My ‘Big chop’

As you can probably tell, I have 4c hair. And if I’m entirely honest, for the longest time, I only thought of girls with 4c hair as having natural hair. Of course I was naive about other textures. But I would say that when I get envious of someone’s hair, it is usually because of their length, rather than their texture. After my big chop, I fell into the trap of expecting my hair to grow as fast as other people’s did, or to act the same way. So of course, I got frustrated when after 3 months, this is all I had:

Clearly not amused...

Clearly not amused…

You see, every time I would put my hair in a protective style (which is usually 90% of the time), I always imagined that my hair would look like this after take down:

Hair so big, can't even fit into the entire image

Hair so big, can’t even fit into the entire image Source:

But no matter how much I stretch after washing, this is what I get:

Super shrinkage or no?

Super shrinkage or no?

So my hair had a talk with me. And the outcome of that talk was to give it tlc, and focus on just that. It promised to grow, as long as I continue to give it unconditional tlc (well, I’m waiting for it to keep its end of the bargain). In the last few months, my hair has taught me something that I have also began to implement in my life. Enjoy the process. Results are good; good results, brilliant. But what’s the fun in living life from result to result? What happens to the in-between? And if the result is not desirable, one should be able to say “well at least it was a fun ride”. Ok, I’ve exhausted my deep talk quota for the week in this paragraph.

TWA forces into a faux bun.

TWA forced into a faux bun.

Anyway, the moral of this post is that I have oh so many hair goals and I have oh so much to learn. This blog has been great with providing me with lessons and sources to learn more from (thanks AB!). And now, novice as I am, I hope to work with AB to continue to do that for you guys and to share the process of my hair journey with you.

Fake it till you make it.

Fake it till you make it.

And so concludes my hair story… for now.

Have a brilliant new week, beauts. Till next time.

- Mee mee xx

Product Review: ORS Olive Oil Edge Control



I got this at Christmas, through the bestie.


Aqua (Water), Cetereth-25, PEG-7 Glyceryl Cocoate, Propylene Glycol, PEG-7 Hydrogenated Castor Oil, Olea Europaea (Olive) Fruit Oil, Aloe Barbadensis Leaf Juice, Glycerin, Cocodimonium Hydroxypropyl, Hydrolyzed Wheat Protein, Parfum (Fragrance), Benzyl Benzoate, Citronellol, d-Limonene, Eugenol, Geranol, Hexyl Cinnamal, Lilial, Linalool, Methyl Ionone, Diazolidynyl Urea, Methylparaben, Propylparaben, DMDM Hydantoin.

Worth noting: water is the first ingredient. It has humectants- Propylene Glycol, Glycerin, and a moisturiser- Aloe Vera Juice.

It also has PARABENS.

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Hey guys!

How are you? :)

I spent the weekend with my family and one of my best girls (hadn’t seen her in months!) My baby brother graduated, to the glory of God! I wish my break was longer *sob sob* lol, but I’m back at work, and with nothing to do today, I just thought I’d show you my hair did. I had one good hair day, and one bad not so good one.

On Saturday, my twist out was not the best, but I happily rocked it like that. *bbm not interested smiley*

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Being Mee – Blog Tag


Hello Beauts!

AB tagged me in her Being Me post and since I just invaded this space without introducing myself to you guys, I have decided to pick up my manners and do the right thing. So here it goes…

Are you named after someone?

The story goes that I was conceived after my parents visited the site of a Marian apparition. My mum wanted to name me after Mary but she thought the name itself was too generic. She’s Evelyn and so she took the last syllable of her name, jammed it into Mary and I was born. She later found out the name existed and modified the spelling appropriately.

When was the last time you cried?

Pssh. I did (not) cry at the end of the book ‘Little Bee’.

Do you have any children?

I have no biological children. However, it came to my attention that I refer to the children I babysit as ‘my children’, so I guess I do have children.

If you were another person, would you be a friend of yourself?

Oh yes. I would be my friend, lover, spouse, everything.

Do you have any guilty pleasures?

Sleep! It’s been this way since the beginning of time.

Do you like handwriting?

Oh I love it. There is nothing like it and nothing should replace it. Pen on paper is forever glorious.

What’s your favourite cereal?

Meh. Maybe Crunchy nut?

What’s the first thing you notice about people?

Teeth. Always teeth. One of the reasons I used to be convinced I was to be a dentist.

What’s the colour of your eyes?

Oh you know, in the sunlight they glisten like… they’re brown. Just dark brown.

Scary movies or happy endings?

Happy endings always.

Favourite TV show?

Desperate Housewives! Cannot get enough of it.

Winter or summer?

Neither, to be honest. I like the in-betweens. But then again summer has sandals, and slippers, and pretty, flimsy dresses, and ice cream…

Hugs or kisses?


Special talent?


Where were you born?

Lagos, Nigeria.


Words. Food. Music.

Do you have any pets?

No pets.

Favourite movie?

The Moulin Rouge. First saw this movie when I was between 10 and 12. Fell in love with it and watched it a million times after, all in succession. Then I watched for the first time in years, last year and I cannot for the life of me understand how I understood the intricacies of this movie enough to fall in love with it.

What colour is your car?

What do you want to do when you grow up?

When I grow up I wanna see the world, drive nice cars, wanna have boobies (am I the only one that heard them say ‘boobies’ and not ‘groupies’?)… I want to do something that I’m passionate about, that improves the human living conditions healthwise. That’s the goal. And I want to write, a lot.

So that’s mee!  I now tag you! And you as well. Yeah, you too. If you thought this was fun and will be fun to do, I tag you!

- Meemee

For The First Time, Kinky Hair at the Most Beautiful Girl in Nigeria Pageant!

Jegzy 2014!

Jegzy 2014!

Hey guys!

Remember Leslassa? Last year, I was excited because Leslassa Armour-Shillingford represented her country Dominica at the Miss World pageant, probably the first woman of African origin to contest on the Miss World stage with her naturally kinky hair!

This year, one of our very own past Hairspirations on the blog Jegzy, is representing us with her big ass fro, at the Most Beautiful Girl in Nigeria pageant!! She is a psychologist, contesting as Miss Ebonyi. To learn more about her, see her MBGN Profile over here!

I’m so excited, and I can’t wait to see how she styles her hair for the big day!!

Now, online voting is open and please we HAVE to see Jegzy (real name: Sarah Jegede) go all the way at MBGN 2014! The winner of the Online Vote will be fast tracked to the Top 15!




1. FOLLOW @SilverbirdMBGN on twitter, and RETWEET this tweet!

2. LIKE her photo on the Pageant’s facebook page-

3. VOTE on the Website, every 24 hours:

4. LIKE her photo on the SilverbirdMBGN Instagram page.

(You can go the extra mile by commenting and sharing and reposting!)

5. Share this so other people can vote!

Remember, you’re voting: Miss Ebonyi, Sarah Jegede.

You can see Jegzy’s Hairspiration feature over here. 

#pleaseVote! #teamNatural #teamJegzy #TeamChangingThemStandardsOfBeauty #OpenUpTheDoors!